The Ideal Girl

Is there really a ideal girl? What's the definition of "ideal"?

Well, assume a scenario wherein there is only one girl in this world. Don't we just like her for the way she is without introspecting or retrospecting. We like the way she talks, the way she treats and just notice her every move as if its sort of out of the world. If she fights with you, you feel bad but you are sure that things get back to normal and you will still like her.

And now, assume that there are two girls. Repeat the incidents again, we start comparing each other and take the best in each of them and hate the rest. It's not that the rest of their traits are bad but just that the other person seems to be better as we are comparing two people here and are choosing the good characteristics from them. Lol, I don't mean to say the problem is with the choice and a few of you might think this is in contradiction with my previous article. Well, I will clear the air. The choice is left to you to make. There's almost always a choice we have, when it comes to our life partners. If not, you are blessed.

Moving on, this is too common with many boys and girls. We always compare one with the other and get hurt. We forget the fact that a person is suppose to behave the way he/she is suppose to behave and not the way we want them to and crib over the way the person responds. People can't expect me to be the way they want but I am the way I am. Apply the same logic to others, give a second chance, a third chance and maybe a fiftieth chance too. Your mom will never leave you either for your first mistake or for your hundredth mistake.

Once there is a room for comparison, we start thinking of the ideal person and start comparing with the ideal character.

What's exactly the ideal character?

They are just the happy moments we see in others and perceive it to reflect in everyone. There's no really a ideal girl. Its just the myth we have developed over time. Before ending I want to share this particular incident.

This incident happened six years ago. I was travelling in a local bus. A girl was sitting opposite to me a few seats away, reading The Notebook (novel). I could only see her eyes first. I just couldn't lay my eyes off her, she was splendid. A few seconds passed, yet the face is not visible. Suddenly, she kept the book down and caught me staring at her. Let me tell you, when a boy looks at a girl, the whole world will know. When a girl looks at a boy, even she wouldn't know.

And then, I had no option but to do a typical boy thing. I took out my phone and pretended to have received a message. Then, I looked at her, she looks away. Then she looked at me, I look back (Another thing which we do, we are never sure if the girl is really looking at us). I notice no one behind. Then I was sure it had to be me, by then she started walking towards me, my heart began beating faster and faster. I moved a little, so that she can occupy the seat beside me. She's walking and my heart is almost running out of capacity to pump. Well, she smiles and just gets down from the bus.

I wake up from my dream. Was she the ideal girl?